LITHUANIAN CUSTOMS AND TRADITIONS

 
 
 

TRADITIONAL LITHUANIAN WEDDING STRUCTURE


Lithuanian weddings have always been subject to a variety of traditions and rituals. This combination of numerous customs, rituals and ceremonies was handed down through centuries and includes national ethnic features. Changes that have taken place during the years are the cause of different family outlooks, ethnic and moral views, life styles and material difficulties.
Based on historical sources, it is evident that Lithuanian weddings are preceded by a variety of rituals. One feature is that it is not the father's objective to find a mate for his son. Father empowers the matchmaker to find the proper mate. During the matchmaking, the young people are introduced to each other and get to know each other. The matchmaker bargains for a proper dowry with the future bride's parents. Matchmaking is the first part of the wedding cycle, lasting long or short periods of time, however it always includes different, chronologically spaced, pre wedding rituals with certain traditions.
The second part of the cycle is the wedding itself. It consists of:

  1. the eve of the wedding day
  2. the wedding day's morning ritual before leaving the house for church
  3. rituals in the bride's home until she becomes a daughter in law
  4. becoming a daughter in law
  5. the bride's reception in the groom's home
  6. the acceptance of the bride by the groom's family and the community 


The third part of the wedding cycle is the return visit of the newly weds [ a.k.a. sugr¹žtai ] to the bride's home and collection of the dowry.
So, according to character and time, there are three complexes of the wedding ceremonies: matchmaking, marriage and the return visit. Matchmaking and the return visit are made up of ceremonies that take place within the family circle. The wedding ceremony, as a way of legalizing marriage within society, takes place with active participation of the families of the bride and groom and of community members. This makes the wedding not only a family but also a community holiday.
Lithuanian weddings are made of sacred and playful complex actions, carried out by a large group of people, according to traditional order, with function and meaning. Wedding rituals are made of compulsory and secondary elements. Even though both elements were constantly changing through the ages, they have remained until now.


 
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